Social Inherited Trauma
Patriarchal Systemic Trauma
Patriarchal Systemic Trauma Recovery
Do you feel you have been controlled, oppressed, dominated, shut down, blamed at even you can’t clearly define and recall specific hurtful memory or incident? Or you have experienced systemic oppression because of
“What is wrong with me?” – is this question always simmering at the back of your mind, all your life?
Do you feel like you’re failing as a woman, as a human being? Do you think you are failing as a parent, professional, as a woman who wants to be seen, make money, and have integrity and freedom or as a man who feels shame all the time because you are “too sensitive”? Well, it did not start with you, but it will stop with you when we do our work together. Emotional burden legacy of patriarchal trauma is often hidden from us but it is embodied in our nervous system. Feeling less, feeling small, feeling guilty and blamed at, feeling oppressed, feeling unsafe of being seen. From the moment you are born you learned you can’t express and live your truth without being conditioned by “someone above” and this is a form of inherited trauma done in patriarchal society for thousands of years. Being woman wasn’t never safe, and also being a man with feminine archetype wasn’t never safe either. Being in minority of any kind, sexual orientation, ethnicity, religion, skin color, immigration status, social status minority was never safe.
How often you listen and lived by this : “Don’t be so smart, people don’t like it”. “Don’t stick out”. “ Don’t speak up, just smile”. “ You should be seen, not heard”, “ Don’t wear this you look like a slut”. “That? You look like a nun.”, ” You look good. You lost a weight.” , “ You look to skinny, you don’t look like a women.”, “Don’t make more money, he won’t like it”, “ What will family say?”. “What will neighbours say”, “Boys don’t cry.”, “ Compose yourself, you are hysterical”, “ You are too happy, what is wrong with you?” , “Don’t dim his/her light, it is not fair.”, “ Don’t make him feel less, it will not be good for your career.”, ” Respect elders, be quite”, “Take his last name, it is a tradition”, “This is how we do in our family”, “ This is our tradition, and you need to respect it”, “ Why are you so sure of your self?”, ” What do you need now?”, “Can’t you settled down finally?”.
Not big T trauma right?, but this is what defines deep layers of oppressive conditioning and this subtle blaming and subtle covert threats is an environment where our nervous system goes into a flight, fight or freeze state and it is how we move to trauma and pain bodies. Done in our families, our society, religion, countries, workplace, neighbourhood, done collectively, in a form of man and woman as well for thousands of years . It is collective, ancestral inherited trauma transferred down to your DNA and it is your individual trauma.
Unresolved traumas, some going back up to seven generations, can entangle us in stress disorders and situations that don’t belong to us. This is why it’s called inherited, or intergenerational or collective trauma we are born into and we are born into rigid patriarchal system. No matter if you define your self as a she, he, or they you can have patriarchal stress disorder and you can be born into patriarchal trauma. Patriarchal Trauma can forge a blueprint for our life, and can be passed pass onto our children as it did past to you. It doesn’t have to continue.

Steps we take.
I will ask many questions and also give you a list of the questions from where you can start asking your family members what happened and do your homework. Don’t worry if there are answers you can’t get. We will identify your emotional trauma and patterns passed down to you and into your nervous system.

How does it work?
We will talk about those patterns in your family history and society. We will identify your emotional trauma while using the somatic experience to understand better where the fear is happening in your body and mind and when. You will become a transitional character. Someone who stops a generational trauma changes the entire course of a lineage and refuses to pass it down on to their children. It ends with you, and this will be the most significant work you can do for your self, your children, and also you will be an essential part of stoping collective trauma by doing healing work in your lineage.
Without explanations, sometimes you or your child ( including teens and adolescents) can feel some following anxiety, fear, or depression symptoms without knowing the reason why.
Patriarchal Systemic Trauma can show as constant states of flight, fight or freeze and anxious symptoms and signs are not limited to worry or nervousness, but can also appear in unexpected ways, including:
- restlessness, irritability or feeling on edge
- feeling less, feeling small, feeling inadequate, feeling like you need a permission or approval from “someone”
- waiting for a permission or approval
- having a need to hide, be small, and minimize your achievements
- feeling like you will be blamed again and again
- feeling shame for having money, having career, having choice, having freedom, having more
- feeling like you need to justify and explain every single action, expression and decision
- feeling like you need to self sabotage your self and not have a money, partner, business, lifestyle you want to have
- racing thoughts, ruminating or obsessing
- being easily fatigued
- muscle tension
- difficulty concentrating or mind going blank
- sleep disturbance, trouble falling asleep or restless, unsatisfying sleep
- physiological symptoms as in panic attacks (e.g., heart palpitations, chest pain)
- sweating or trembling
- having difficulty controlling worry
- feeling weak or tired
- trouble concentrating or thinking about anything other than the present anxiety
- unexpected fear in certain places, buildings, homes
- sudden fear around people with particular looks, mimics or laughter
All the symptoms can be transferred down to you by your parents, grandparents, or society or culture you have been born into.