Understanding Inhibited Grief in Man and Somatic Recovery: Breaking the Taboo

Grief is a universal human experience, yet the way each of us process and express the grief can vary significantly. Throughout history, societal conditioning has often discouraged men from openly expressing their grief.

Lets start with Definition of Inhibited Grief First:

Inhibited grief, also known as suppressed grief or constrained grief, is a psychological and emotional response to loss in which individuals consciously or unconsciously restrain or suppress their feelings and expressions of grief. This suppression often occurs due to various external factors, societal expectations, or personal beliefs that discourage the open and full expression of grief.

Inhibited grief can manifest in different ways, such as avoiding discussions or thoughts about the loss, concealing one’s emotions, or attempting to carry on with daily life as if the loss had not occurred. This response can hinder the natural grieving process, potentially leading to prolonged emotional distress and physical symptoms.

1. What is Inhibited Grief among Men?

Inhibited grief among men is a phenomenon where societal expectations and traditional gender roles discourage the open expression of emotions related to loss, be it the death of a loved person, loss of a dog, a job loss, or a any life change: as not being a part of your friends group, losing your ability to workout for example. Men have often been conditioned to appear stoic and “strong,” which can lead to inhibited grief. Inhibited grief leads to compounded grief. Keep in mind many cultures will suppressed grief as well. The more oppressed culture the more of suppressed grief we will see.

2. Manifestations of Inhibited Grief

Inhibited grief manifests in various ways among men, often hidden beneath a veneer of stoicism:

  • Emotional Suppression: Men may suppress their emotions, including sadness, grief, healthy anger, due to the fear of appearing weak or vulnerable or uncontrollable.
  • Physical Symptoms: Unexpressed grief can result in somatic symptoms, including headaches, stomachaches, muscle tension, and sleep disturbances. These physical manifestations are the body’s way of revealing the emotional turmoil within.
  • Substance Abuse: Some men may turn to alcohol, drugs, or other addictive behaviors as a means of coping with their unprocessed grief, further exacerbating their emotional and physical well-being.
  • Isolation: Men may isolate themselves, withdrawing from social interactions and support networks, which can hinder their ability to heal and cope with grief effectively.

3. The Impact on Somatic Health

  1. Suppression and Health: Research has shown that suppressing grief can manifest physically through somatic symptoms like headaches, digestive issues, muscle tension, and sleep disturbances, low testosterone, lost libido. These symptoms are the body’s way of signaling emotional distress due to the grief.
  2. The Burden of Stoicism Leads to Burnout: The pressure to conform to traditional masculine norms can lead to chronic stress and its associated health problems, including cardiovascular issues, exhaustion, weakened immune function, and increased vulnerability to illness. It is crucial to address this burden of stoicism to maintain the well-being of men.

4. Breaking Down the Walls of Silence and Strategies for Healthy Somatic Grief Processing

  1. Embrace Vulnerability: The first step in dealing with inhibited grief is to embrace vulnerability. It’s essential for men to recognize that it’s okay to feel sadness, anger, guilt, or confusion. Emotions are a natural part of the human experience, regardless of gender.
  2. Seek Support: Breaking the taboo around male emotional expression involves reaching out to friends, family, or a therapist. Encourage open conversations and provide a safe space for men to share their experiences without judgment.
  3. Prioritize Self-Care: Taking care of physical and emotional well-being is crucial. Engaging in activities that promote relaxation and stress relief, such as meditation, exercise, and spending time in nature, can help. Adequate sleep and a balanced diet are also vital.
  4. Challenge Gender Norms: Promote a shift in societal expectations by challenging traditional gender norms. Encourage men to express themselves emotionally and support them in doing so. Create a safe environment in which they can be their authentic selves.
  5. Ritualize Grief: Creating meaningful rituals or memorials can be a therapeutic way to process grief. Men can engage in activities like movement dance, journaling, art, or dedicating a special day to honor the person, a pet or thing they’ve lost.
  6. Join Online Trauma Grief Writing Support Groups

Inhibited grief among men is a result of deep-seated societal conditioning that discourages emotional expression. It’s crucial to challenge these traditional norms and create a more inclusive and emotionally supportive society. By acknowledging and addressing inhibited grief, you can embark on a healing journey that leads to better physical and emotional health. Remember that grief is a natural process, and seeking help and support is a sign of strength, not weakness. Breaking the taboo surrounding male emotional expression is a step toward healthier, more emotionally balanced lives for everyone.

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